Common bro, stop thinking about her, and spend time on your personal improvement. Be selfish and love yourself the most than anyone else. Problem right now with you is you are underestimating yourself. You think that she is the best thing happen to you and your past was better than your present/future. Both of which are false, which you will realize in near future after you move on with your life.

hawking666 · Dec 12, 2015 5:52 PM

I went through same situation and still fighting. slowly time will heal everything. I was in relationship with this girl from past 7 years since we came to US. Not live in relationship just on same city after she finished her undergrad once her parents came here her mind started changing and all the sudden she decided to go to nepal and her one decision fucked me up really bad i was working on my opt . All the sudden i loose my calmness and things started changing to me lost everything my job, status. Her parents blamed me that i am not settled bla bla..... no green card ....she was real bitch i know now as soon as she went to nepal she got married with a guy who have australian PR. so all this love and this is bullshit......Its lust...she fulfilled her desire n so do i. After all that happened i am still fighting with depression. Block everything delete everything ......try to do Breating exercise, learn yoga and meditation. i am changing slightly and trying to quite my personal bad habits. Don't loose hope you deserve better.

help977 · Dec 12, 2015 6:02 PM

It's because you haven't found a girl better than her. It's like switching jobs, if it turns out to be worse than your last place, you get this regret why did I do this, on the other than if it's awesome than you feel it was the best decision ever. Find someone better than her and you will forget about her in a day. Trust me.

rouge44 · Dec 12, 2015 6:15 PM

Bro don't let depression to fuck u up. once you are depressed its very hard to get back on track. don't feel like doing small things,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,the list is long try to engage more yourself. i am in same phase once you are up with medicine it will be habit don't get into that its better start changing yourself.

help977 · Dec 12, 2015 6:32 PM

Thanks guys, I really appreciate all of your advice. I have always respected women in my life or never played with their feelings. This woman is very smart and educated and I also find her very gorgeous, so this must be the reason, I am so much after her. I still don't understand why she gives me hope by unblocking my number in viber, whatsapp or unblocking me on Facebook and everywhere. When I become rude to her for unblocking me then she says she cares about me and can't see me suffer. She also posts stuffs that resurrect all the memories we have had from the past. This woman does not care anything at all, she is a heartless bitch. Last edited: 12-Dec-15 07:06 PM

Hydrogen Sulphide · Dec 12, 2015 6:59 PM

H2S, all those things are irrelevant. You need to delete her number, unfriend her in FB and move on. She has already moved on and there is nothing you can do to change that. Just focus on finding a new person. She might come back in future but for now go on with your life even it's tough to do. Start by getting a sexy haircut man :)

rouge44 · Dec 12, 2015 7:10 PM

Take this as a nightmare. shit happens but life goes on. it was a fantasy and it was like a cindrella story. take a pause; now its over. simple, she doesn't love u anymore & she had an infatuation( now her heart & mind is not with u). JUst trust urself and keep faith that u will come out of this sooner or later. Trust me; u will have better days & the best days. i know it hurts real bad & u don't see anything period. This just signifies u r a human being. u will learn to love urself value urself and know the things. Good luck buddy. Ps: this will make u a better person & a human being. u will be happier.

Jaysmi · Dec 12, 2015 7:36 PM

खै hydrogen ब्रो के suggestion दिनु र अब यस्तो पिडा को बेला मा तै पनि "खुट्टा भए जुत्ता कति कति" भन्ने चलन छ क्यारे नेपाल मा ............

bhairas · Dec 12, 2015 8:16 PM

Bro hate her as much as u can just hate her .............bitch haru testai ho aauta haat ma paisa aarko haat ma L**O paye pachi yo maya saya sapai bullshit ho it happened to me and i have seen people even married couple gone through this ...........just imagine if this things happen after marriage k hunthyo hola. Don't fuck up yourself kunai bitch ko lagi............

help977 · Dec 12, 2015 8:23 PM

Hey dude, I was in the same situation too. I have stopped blaming the girls for making us miserable. It is us because we don't know how to deal with such people. We keep calling and texting them, and tell them that we are nothing but a dick. Don't do that. Don't go after her. Don't call and text her. If you want to say anything to her, text yourself, say it to yourself. I have been through all this shit. What I got was her attitude. Maybe she enjoyed over my calls and texts. And she is doing the same thing to you. At some point like me you will be frustrated and will forget yourself. You will not know what you are doing , you won't know what you are saying like I once told her "bitch, go away of my life". I know I was rude and disrespectful to a girl but she was the one who frustrated me. She was the one who made me impatient So save yourself from such people. Move on, dude, move on.

Pharsi · Dec 12, 2015 9:11 PM

@Pharsi bro, I really like your suggestion. What a good way to boost your self-esteem! Thanks! Last edited: 12-Dec-15 09:29 PM

Hydrogen Sulphide · Dec 12, 2015 9:29 PM

Oh bhai, marnu nai cha bhane i will suggest u the easisiest way. Ghar ma daadu cha ? Daadu jhika, tes ma pani tatau, ra tesh ma dubera mara. Sajilo huncha. Ke garnu ta timro AMMA le timi lai yesari marna lai janmaye raicha ta. All the best, for ur journey to the other side.

bairaghi · Dec 12, 2015 9:37 PM

Life is a joke, live it with a sense of humour. Noone gets out of life alive, you don't have to end it. It ends itself someday. Don't be crazy about a girl, not even your own wife. Make yourself happy n those who love you n care for you. Wish well for those who cheated you. There are plenty of girls out there.

Raj Shrestha · Dec 12, 2015 10:36 PM

I am not going to commit suicide guys, it's just that I am feeling really low and dejected. I have been a strong man and will remain so, but never knew this thing could be this bad. Thanks !

Hydrogen Sulphide · Dec 12, 2015 11:02 PM

Hey man we have talk/discuss before on several topics and i thought you were real mature man. Its just one phase of life bro. Take it easy. Time will take care of everything. Just dont let some1 ruin your beautiful life. I was in that situation and i am sure everyone in sajha has been there or will be there some day and real man always overcome such sh!t. Honestly it took me long time too , to realize life is too beautiful to waste in one person who don't even care for you. Just think that way. And let me tell you one fact for every breaking up reason they show family. Its standard way to male someone away from themself. She might got someone and she ditched you. She is enjoying somewhere with someone when you are crying here in sajha for her!!! So let it be. One day you will say Je bho ramrai bho.

facebook · Dec 12, 2015 11:27 PM

La paade (H2S) bhai, raag nai bho ni. Maile ta sathi haru lai, la PANI MARUWA ko malami janu parcha bhani saab jamma pareko thiye. aba yeso bar tira hinnu parla som ras tanna.

bairaghi · Dec 12, 2015 11:36 PM

Bro, aren't you the guy who is 30, has a PhD, and Australian PR? There are a lot of decent Nepali girls willing to marry someone with your background. Are you looking for "true love" and not interested in arranged marriages or are your requirements for a wife too lofty? besides these two things, I can't think of why you be crying over a Nepali girl that clearly is immature and just messing with you.

ma_dhongi · Dec 13, 2015 12:15 AM