I have been working in an international company here in the US since a year. I am a senior scientist and expert in the field and work in the similar capacity. I have this south Indian co-worker, who acts very rude to me. I am in general easy going, simple person that works hard and in volume. This guy is junior to me and has been working since past almost three years. This guy talks well with others but ignores me and I have a feeling he does have some passive aggression towards me. He sucks up to the khaires and especially seniors. I have a khaireni colleague whom I know from my grad school (we were in the same research group). She is junior to me and works with the same designation as this Indian guy. He kisses her ass and acts as the nicest guy in the world but when it comes to me he acts like he is some kind of big-shot. He never admits he does not know something. He "knows" everything. Every time I see him, it makes me feel cringy. I have a feeling he backstabs behind me and bitches about me with other junior staffs too. Because of his attitude, my work-life balance has been little affected. I feel like not wanting to go to work as it gives me too much negativity. My boss and other seniors like me. They have implemented changes I initiated. He is also liked. I have some feeling that he is insecure with me. I don't know, I might be wrong. Do you guys have any Indian co-worker that acts that way? I've read a lot about such attitude (Kiss up, kick down) in Indian at workplaces. Please share yours and suggest me what I should do. I really am starting to hate this guy.
ghorlekabo · Oct 2, 2018 8:26 PM · 71,268 views
I have a hilarious experience regarding this. Encountered a similar ass licking, belittling south Indian with superiority complex. He used to treat me as if i don’t know anything. He used to kiss my boss ass and talk to me in condesending tone. The job that our boss would assign, he would almost threaten me and tell me that any email i send regarding the job, i must send to him first because his reputation is at stake. Days went by and his arrogance was growing. I was beginning to feel dread even to going to work because of him. There was one project which i was assigned independently by luck and i was working hard on it. Our client had a severe production impacting issue which i solved. The next day, beknownst to me , my manager, all managers from other department came in our office. I was thinking, shit, something broke bad. They called my name, i was thinking holy shit, i gotta pack up my shit. Then surprisingly they announced they were there to give me letter of accomplishment and everyone applauded. The look i saw in that indian coworker, oh man, i kinda felt bad for that checkmate. After that he had some respect for me and we started going to bars once in a while. He opened up about his difficulty with getting a girl to date. Then i lined him for killshot and one day took my beautiful gf to the bar and introduced with him. The look on that subramanyum’s face, i will forever cherish.
maharjan123 · Apr 13, 2019 8:39 AM
I work with a lot of Indians but most of them started with fake ass resume , I came with a strong related academic field and had much more knowledge than them. Some were working senior than me when I joined but after few weeks of joining the company , our Associate Director made me the lead and they all started working under me ! Some of them working remotely and when i did meetings for the project , they all thought I was born here cuz I spoke a bit better English than them ! Then when I told them the reality they were all like “oh ..”.. Later on they all started respecting me cuz I could solve the complex problems , even an Indian senior manager was very friendly to me cuz I was one of the best in the team ! Be strong at your job, don’t think you’re inferior to any Indian guy, you’ll be okay . South Indians are usually friendly ... we used to go for lunch together , i never had any issues , I left that company and some Indians still call me and even come to my social event and invite me . They actually feel a bit inferior to me ... I kind of get that feeling but I’m an easy person , I get along with them quite well ....
guy_tensed · Apr 13, 2019 5:00 PM
One more thing I wanted to add..I became sick for few days one time and some of my Nepali friends never bother to visit me but the Indian manger and other Indian colleagues came to my house to know how I was doing , they even brought some Indian herbal medicine ! Not all Indians are bad.
guy_tensed · Apr 13, 2019 5:03 PM
Yep not everyone is bad. If someone thinks everyone one is bad because of one or two bad experiences then you may be very well to deserve that.
itahariko · Apr 13, 2019 5:21 PM
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