You left Nepal 20 years ago. You bought a house in America. Your children were raised abroad. You work abroad, pay taxes abroad, use hospitals abroad, send your children to schools abroad—and perhaps plan to retire abroad. But open Facebook or get into a group conversation at a Nepalese party - and suddenly you are ready to fight with another Nepali over **who should run Nepal.** Isn't there something strange about that? Many diaspora Nepalis passionately lecture people in Nepal about patriotism, leadership and how the country should be governed. But when Nepal became difficult, **we left.** That isn't necessarily hypocrisy. People leave for education, opportunity, family and countless legitimate reasons. But it should create some humility. It is remarkably easy to demand political experiments in Nepal when **someone else has to live with the consequences.** If the economy struggles, they lose the job. If government services fail, they stand in the line. If hospitals don't work, they search for treatment. If corruption continues, they deal with it every day. We can close Facebook and go back to life in Boston, Sydney, London or Toronto. And here is an even more uncomfortable question. Some diaspora Nepalis praise political leaders, parties or systems in Nepal with extraordinary passion. **If that system is so good, why did so many of us choose to build our futures somewhere else?** We enjoy predictable institutions, functioning infrastructure and greater economic opportunity abroad—and then sometimes become strangely tolerant of political behavior back home that we might strongly criticize where we live. Then we tell young Nepalis: **“Don't leave Nepal. Stay and build the country.”** Fine. But would we tell our own children: **“After graduation, move permanently to Nepal. Your future belongs there”?** How many of us actually would? None of this means the diaspora should shut up. Nepal's Supreme Court has directed the government to make arrangements for eligible Nepali citizens abroad to vote, and the Election Commission is currently studying how overseas voting could work. Diaspora Nepalis also maintain families, businesses, investments and deep emotional connections with Nepal. So yes—speak. Criticize. Debate. Care passionately. But perhaps before telling people living in Nepal what Nepal desperately needs, we should ask ourselves one brutally uncomfortable question: **Are we fighting for the Nepal that exists today—or are we fighting the political battles we packed into our suitcases 20 years ago?**