u have a galfren in Nepal and u have not seen for almost 2 years. She says she will wait for u ever, coz she love u lot and so do you. Means u both are in true love. Her most of family member know about you too including her mom. And so does yours. But you know in nepal, people wants their daughter to get married before 24. U cannot marry her for another 4-5 yrs coz u r studying and need to find job later. She is honest to u but sometime situation makes people to do beyond their control. And u'r family has its own problems of internal matters. She wants u to come and visit her once coz its been long time, but ur luck u cannot, money matters and ofcourse study matters too. What should u do later on.... tell her to wait u for 4 more yrs or tell her to do what her parents wants her to do after few yrs??? And u know after at keast 2 yrs she will be forced to get married as a typical mom will do to her daughter, U r just 21 now and so do her and life does not carry on only getting married, u need to have real job, situation to take care of another life. But the problem is you love her like a crazy.

My story. Have u been in such situations???

Same prb Upendra...I dont know if it sounds good or not but I have a idea in my mind, anyhow go to nepal within these 4 years better make it within two years ...both of u guys meet somewhere n get married in court...without letting anyone know except for a witness , give the papers to ur gf, make arrangements in US so t hat she can come to US then bring her down to the palce where u r living ..n thats how it gets going. ;) just an idea...I am little lucky for that ....we havent meet each other for 3 yrs ..just worked my ass off to get there in this summer...u better try that too...if u have a good realtioship..get it going. good luck

UpendraBro: I am sure most of the people here share your situation including myself...

This is wht i personally think... being a grl.. i know that there is always gonne be some kinda insecurity about ur guy...well seeing things around, all i wanna say is that R U FOR SURE THAT U"LL STILL LOVE HER THE SAME WAY AFTER 4 YEARS AS U DO NOW?? i am saying this coz i've seen many cases where a guy/grl comes to US with their bf/gf back home.. indeed they love them but once they get here... they meet different ppl and same thing applies to ppl back home.. it is natural... that being a human... ur feelings change!! u tend to have stronger feeling towards the ppl whom u see everyday than towards those who are thousands mile away... anywys.. in simple plain words.. i'd say that visit her and if you are sure that NO GOD DAMN THING CAN CHANGE UR FEELINGS TOWARDS HER...then u know wht to do...4 yrs is not that long... its worth waiting...BUT if u don't have taht attitude, don't make her n urself float in the air...let her go...Good Luck..n best wishes...
P.S: some ppl might not agree with me... but it is just my opinion.. they don't have to follow this!! :-)

And u know after at keast 2 yrs she will be forced to get married
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Since when do they force to marry ? Anyways back to your question....think what you want but if you already started asking such questions means something is lacking and you are not sure. If you were confident such things even wouldnt dare to cross your mind. Hmmm time to decide ?

Good luck

Hey matrixrose, my question does not mean that i am not sure or whatever. I was trying to say that every mother wants their daughter to get married before they get old i mean before 24-25. And i know it will happen in everyone case.

And sense bro, thanks for ur comment but i dont think it will be a good idea to marry secretly and even when u r not in position to support other life when u r in trouble with ur self.

Wish I can be flyer with no fear.

How can it happen if she doesnt let it happen ?

Its same like How can you do ur homework if dont want to do it? Pressure man Pressure but ya u r right too, well need to be self confident. Hope she will too, Thanks.

Hey Upendra... well about the mariage thing.. I totally agree with you.. I mean if you are 21 and the gal is 21 too.. this is no time for you to think abt getting married... and about the gal being forced to marry.. well parents are more understanding then ppl really assume them to be....

I think that if the mom knows abt you then she will prolly listen to her daughter.. after all they really want her happiness... and as dreamz said... feelings might change.. it is very important for 2 ppl to be together or at least meet once in a while...

IF you are sure that you cant go there in the near future to meet her and that if she cant come here too.. then you should prolly talk it out with her.. tell her what situation you are in and of course.. if it is true love as you claim it to be... then she will understand.. and I dont think that you should be worring abt what will happen after 4 or even 2 years...

just take it as it goes... right now the situation is not so bad.. you are just thinking abt it too much.. take life as it comes... you might never be in a situation that you are assuming you will be in after 2-4 yrs. just keep comunicating with her... make her UNDERSTAND how you feel... it is very important for her to know your feelings... and work out the problems as they come... dun pre-plan things.. normally the plans dun work out.. and all the best.. I really hope that your relationship will be a success!!:)

its same like How can you do ur homework if dont want to do it? Pressure man Pressure but ya u r right too, well need to be self confident. Hope she will too, Thanks.
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Homework re ? hehee...anyways sweet example. But im glad you got my point...if you truely love and have faith trust me nothing is impossible. Impossible is a word written in dictionary of fools....its just you gotta want it.


Rythm sis welcome welcome. ;)

Thanks Rythm really appreciate Your suggestion.

Rose sis tum jahaa main wahaa...;)

Awww Rythm sis what would i do without you. ;) Please do enjoy my company...i will show you the hmmmm lemme stop lol.

khai sis ... tara aaj kal sajha ma pahilaa jatti fun postings nai chaina hai,... pahila ta din ma katti postings garinthiyo.. tara aaj kal!!:(

Sis....dont worry im here...i will give you all u want hehe. :)

No offense to Upendra ji... tara Matrix sis dont you think that guys are weird.. I mean some guys like or love gals so dearly.. and say that they can do anythin for them... ani other guys run away from gals.. and relationship... whats with them...??

can u ever understand what a guy really wants???? malai achamma lagchha bahnya!! wh en u think that u finally understand them.. BANG!! they say and do the unexpected.. i mean jeez!!

I mean some guys like or love gals so dearly.. and say that they can do anythin for them... ani other guys run away from gals.. and relationship... whats with them...??
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Oh my sis.....ke bhanu aba.....saying and doing is dfferent. They seem to forget *LOVE*is a Verb. And about running part well sis dont worry they cant run forever. And sis if you like someone and he is running...lemme know hai i will catch him and bring to you. Damn let me see who says no. lol

rythm hehe....i think ketas got the ketis disease...as they say if u cant beat them join them ;oP...and since that ketis disease never seems to be cured..keta lai pani lagyo :o)...makes sense doesnt it?hehe..wah wah..now to find the cure..and i be rich and famous ;oP

adn this rose pani...oi this is upendramansingh(dyam had to spell checkit for the 1st time...cos i think it might be his real name wahahaha ;oP) bro ko thread...stop ur chatting here!!dhat be a bit more sensitive will u!!!!!SHESSSH!!!;oP

anyways upen bro..good luck :oD

soccer thread padnu jjannu paryo ;o)

laters..

danny

Awwww sis... i dun lop anyone.. in fact i am scared of love.. i think "love" and "hurt" are synonyms..... so u dun need to catch anyone... ani koi keta ma bata bhagne?? is it even possible sis ;)

ani danny jyu.. would you mind elaborating what a gals disease is??? thanks in advance for your explanation:)