Seeking suggestion on what to do.
Please, this is my kind request not to comment any offensive reply.
I definitely would touch base with a lawyer soon. However, initiation on Sajha always does help
Thanks in advance
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рдХреЗрд╣рд┐ рдмрд░реНрд╖ рдЕрдЧрд╛рдбрд┐ рдиреЗрдкрд╛рд▓ рдЧрдПрдХреЛ рдмреЗрд▓рд╛ рдореИрд▓реЗ рдмрд┐рд╣реЗ рдЧрд░реЗ (strange but true it is a love marriage)ред рдмрд┐рд╣реЗ рд▓рдЧрддреНрддреИ рдо usa рдлрд░реНрдХреЗ рдЖрдлреНрдиреЛ рдХрд╛рдо рдХреЛ рд▓рд╛рдЧрд┐ред рдЕреИрд▓реЗ рдо work visa рдорд╛ рдЫреБред was in f1 when i got married.
рдореИрд▓реЗ рдмрд┐рд╣реЗ рдорд╛ рдХреЗрд╣реА рджрд╛рдИрдЬреЛ рдкрдирд┐ рд▓реЗрдХреЛ рдерд┐рдПрдиред рджрд╛рдИрдЬреЛ рдирд▓рд┐рдПрд░ рдареБрд▓реЛ рдХрд╛рдо рдЧрд░реА рднрдиреНрди рдЦреЛрдЬреЗрдХреЛ рд╣реИрдиред True, so it is being included in this post.
рдмрд┐рд╣реЗ рдкрдЫреА:
I started hearing from family and friends about my wife being seen with other guy in a different dating spot.
To confirm i did ask her and she admitted so easily.
Strange!
just within few months period after marriage рдо рдпрд╣рд╛рдБ usa ma рд╣реБрдБрджрд╛ рдЙрд╕рдХреЛ рдЕрд░реБ рдХреЗрдЯрд╛ рд╕рдБрдЧ рд╕рдореНрдмрдиреНрдз рд░рд╣рди рдкреБрдЧреЗрдЫред Yes! after marriage. She said it is her true and deep love for that guy and that guy indeed understands her.
рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ рдорд▓рд╛рдИ рдЙреБ рддреЗрд╣реА рдХреЗрдЯрд╛ рд╕рдБрдЧ рдЬрд╛рдиреНрдЫреБ рднрдиреЗрд░ mero рдШрд░ рдЫреЛрдбреЗрд░ рдЧрдИред and i didn't stop her. i let her go.
(it was not easy to let the wife u love to go with someone else in such a dramatic way.
But i let her go because i want my relationship with my life partner to be bounded by love, trust, true feelings and respect, not due to any compulsion or рд╕рд╛рдорд╛рдЬрд┐рдХ рдмрдиреНрджреЗрдЬ.
Besides, i have always loved her and i still do. I thought if she would be happy with that let her be happy with it.
I did what i think was right, however, this stuff took me to depression for several weeks. I was not able to think, sleep, work for several weeks. Thanks to my lead and my team who understood my situation and help me with my work situation being much supportive. ( she was Indian and a woman and I believe that's called humanity)
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рддрд░ рддреНрдпреЛ рдХреЗрдЯрд╛рд▓реЗ mero wife lai рд╕реНрд╡рд┐рдХрд╛рд░реЗрди рдЫ, рдХреЗ рднрдпреЛ рддреЗрд╕ рдкрдЫреА рдЙ рдореЗрд░реЛ рдШрд░рдорд╛ рдорд╛ farkina.
But she started sending series of message asking me to sponsor her to USA on dependent visa or funded her to study abroad.
Then I realized her real intention. She married me(despite I am much older than her and much ugly as according to her) because her motive was to enter USA and to get financial backup from me.
I denied to sponsor her. Neither my financial situation is that good to fund her for abroad study.
рд╣рд╛рд▓ рдК рдЖрдлреНрдиреЛ рдорд╛рдЗрддрд╛ рдорд╛ рдмрд╕реНрджреИ рдЖрдПрдХреЛ рд░рд╣реЗрдЫред since last 1 year.
(she just lied and fooled around her parents and getting support of them.
it is said mother's love is blind.No doubt, mother always support her child, but at least being a mother, one has to be much cautious regarding child action and have to figure out the real stuff. Still no complain to my wife's mother)
рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ рдорд▓рд╛рдИ рдкрдвреНрди рдмрд╕реНрди рдЦрд░реНрдЪ рдорд╛рдЧреЗрдХреЛ рдерд┐рдпреЛред рдЖрдлреНрдиреЛ рдХрд░реНрддрд╡реНрдп рд╣реЛ рднрдиреА рдореИрд▓реЗ рдЙрд╕реНрдХреЛ dad ko рдЦрд╛рддрд╛рдорд╛ рдкреИрд╕рд╛ рд╣рд▓рд┐рджрд┐рдиреНрдЫреБ рднрдиреЗ рддрд░ рддреЗрд╕реЛ рднрдиреЗ рдкрдЫреА рд░реАрд╕рд╛рдПрд░рд░ рдЪрд╛рдЗрджреИрди рднрдирд┐рдиред She wanted money in her account.
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My previous employer let me go from my previous job. Luckily, I found a new job and working fine so far.
However, barambar my wife has been threatening me to drag me to the court, divorce nai nadikana dhuru dhuru ruwauchu and all.
Though it always tortured me, I was able to control myself.
Every times she send msg, i would be scared, my whole body tingles and i am not able to think at all. I know it's a complete abuse but I always have stayed quiet as once upon a time she did provide me an immense love and support and I can never deny that fact.
Few days back she again sent msg and this time it was indeed intolerable; once again.
she messaged, рдЙрд╕рд▓реЗ рдорд▓рд╛рдИ рджрд┐рд╡реЛрд░реНрдХреЗ рдХреЗрд╕ рдЧрд░реНрдЫреБ, property рдХреНрд▓реИрдо рдЧрд░реНрдЫреБ . and this time she said she would terminate my visa and drag me back to NEPAL. She used all the 'F' word, khate kukur and all. She said she has reached to the lawyer regarding this and her lawyer would be sending the legal documents to me.
I tried to calm her down and convince her but of no avail. so said her
рдЬреЗ рдареАрдХ рд▓рд╛рдЧреНрдЫ рддреЗрд╣реА рдЧрд░реНрдиреБ
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Just would like to mention, while I am in USA, I never have any relation with any girl.
I don't drink, smoke, neither I go to strip clubs and all. People who knows me even can't predict what's going inside my heart and my life.
I just try to make everyone smile though someone is making me cry all the time.
Again mentioning this as it is the fact.
I understand woman has more priority as per Nepal law.
Now Few questions to the one who can provide me relevant information.
- рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ рдорд▓рд╛рдИ рдХреЗрд╕ рдЧрд░реА рдореЗрд░реЛ visa cancel рдЧрд░рд╛рдЗ рдиреЗрдкрд╛рд▓ рдлрд░реНрдХрд┐рди рд╡рд╛рдзреНрдп рдЧрд░рд╛рдЙрдЫреБ рднрдиреА msg рдкрдард╛рдХреЛ рдЫред
kt рд▓реЗ рдЪрд╛рд╣реЗрдХреЛ рдЦрдгреНрдж рдорд╛ рдХреЗ рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ рддреЗрд╕реЛ рдЧрд░реНрди рд╕рдХреНрдЫ ra According to Nepal Law? I am on work visa
- рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ property claim рдХреЗрд╕ рдЬрд┐рддреЗ ko рдЦрдиреНрджрдорд╛ рдпрд╛ рд╣рд╛рд░реЗрдХреЛ рдЦрдиреНрджрдорд╛ рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ рдХрддреА property paucha ?
- рдХреЗ рдореЗрд░реЛ рдмрд╛рдЙ ko рд╕рдореНрдкрддреНрддрд┐ рдорд╛ рдЙрд╕реНрд▓реЗ claim garna рд╕рдХреНрдЫ? (i am never in favor of taking my father's will. I believe in being independent and glad I am.)
- if she cases me which she might be planning, рдХреЗ рдореИрд▓реЗ рдореЗрд░реЛ usa рдорд╛ рднрд╛рдХреЛ рдЖрдлреНрдиреЛ рдЪрд▓реН рдЕрдЪрд▓ рд╕рдореНрдкрддреНрддрд┐ рд╕рдмреИ рдХреЛ рдмрд┐рдмрд░рдг рджрд┐рдиреБ рдкрд░реНрдЫред рдо рд╕рдБрдЧ рднрдХреЛ рд╕рдореНрдкрддреНрддрд┐ рднрдиреНрджрд╛ рдзреЗрд░реИ рд╕рдореНрдкрддреНрддрд┐ рдорд╛рдЧреЗрдХреЛ рдЦрдиреНрджрдорд╛ рдореИрд▓реЗ рдХреЗ рдЧрд░реНрдиреБ parca.
- рдПрджреА рдореИрд▓реЗ mero рдЕрд▓рд┐ рдЕрд▓рд┐ рднрд╛рдХреЛ money рдореЗрд░реЛ рдорджрд░ рдХреЛ name рдорд╛ рд░рд╛рдЦреЗ рднрдиреЗ рдХреЗ рддреЗрд╕реНрдорд╛ рдЙрдиреНрд▓реЗ рд╣рдХ рджрдмреА рдЧрд░реНрди рд╕рдХреНрдЫ ?
- ke ma nepal nai janu parcha divorce ko lagi or Is it possible to get it done from USA?
---- can i sue my wife for all these mental harassment and abuse as according to Nepal's law.
I have all the abusive msg, email she has sent, her admit of her affair. everything.
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I just would like to mention,
I would for sure reach to lawyer regarding this. It is just an initiative on sajha in the expectation of getting some appropriate advise. If anyone can suggest good advise and divorce lawyer, that would be great.
My question on this thread and for the topic for suing my wife for mental abuse is not to trouble my wife though she troubled/troubles me a lot. At one point of a time, i was suicidal for a while because of her deeds.
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My kind request
please don't criticize and assume or use any thing bad word for her.
I agree she did wrong but still don't want bad words for her.
i still love her. But I couldn't be with her because i have some principle and dignity in life.
and i believe no husband can be with the wife whom he loved, trusted, respected had left him for some other guy being in relationship with that other guy.
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No matter she wins the case or loose I would still provide her the part of my asset i earned working so hard in usa for her education, food and accommodation. I just want to be sure she doesn't misuse the money she gets,
рдХрд┐рдирдХрд┐ рдЖрдлреБрд▓реЗ рджреБрдЦ рдЧрд░рд┐ рдХрдорд╛рдХреЛ рдкреИрд╕рд╛рдХреЛ/рд╕рдореНрдкрддрд┐рдХреЛ рдорд╛рдпрд╛ рдЖрдлреБрд▓рд╛рдИ рдЬрддрд┐ рдЕрд░реБрд▓рд╛рдИ рдХрд╣рд┐рд▓реЗ рд╣реБрджреИрди.
so she can spent/waste the money in a wrong way which she would get after divorce.
and i want my wife to be independent achieving a good education so that in future no matter wherever she will be, whoever she will be with she can survive happily and can have prosperous life.
Rahyo sawal mero. Sajha ko sathi haru bhaee halnu hunca ni to smile and remain calm.
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