she's 19, i'm 27. no.. we are not seeing each other... i know her and she knows me too ..damn... she calls me "dai"!!
i dont know what to do.. no one has ever made me feel they way this girl does...i just cant get her out of my mind... and i dont want to ... just dont know what to do..
she' so innocent and vuneravle and lovable and everything nice and sooothing..and i feel i am not good enough for me... not that i feel i am bad or something but i guess its the age that is making me keep myself away from her...
its been about 7-8 months that i was first introduced to hert.... it wasn't love at first sight....... it's so easty to love her but it took time... and now nothing ever ever ever going to change it... i kind of avoided her for a few months...beacuse i thought it's never going to work out for the two of us..but it doesn't seem to work..distance only made my heart grow fonder...and last week when i saw her and talked the usual talk .. hi.. how;re you? loong time no see.....i haven't been able to eat sleep think . and now i know i have to do something about this... i really really have to....... she probably does;nt have the slightest of idea about my feelings..
i need help guys.. what do you think i shoufl do.. is 8 years actually almost 9 years a lot of difference in age?? am i wrong?? what do you tyhink i should do.. i mean i dont want to get iin her way.. she's got 3.5 more years befire she graduates... life sucks... help me out!!!!!

Quit givin ya self a hard time and spit out ya feeling infront of that girl and see how she feels about it. More ya push it, more you suffer. Age shouldn't be a problem as long as you 2 can get along.

At da same time you said she calls ya Dai. She might bring that stuf up so be prepared what ya gonna say if she does.

damn I'm talkin like a luv-doc now!!

~peace~

Hey Mainhoona,
I have also same kind of problem. Actually I was thinking to share this with other guys in Sajha but I couldn't gather that much courgae. Now I am inspired with you.
Now she is 21 and I am 29. I know her from her childhood when she was in class 5. Now she is 21, Oh my god how fast the time passed !
She also calls me "dai" but actually we don't have any kind of family relation ! We use to talk in the fone for more than one time in day and talk hours. She shares everything with me and I also do the same. I don't know whether I am in luv with her or not.
But My heart is not that much strong to say " I luv u" to her.
I have no idea about what she thinks about our relationship.
I don't know how long it will go with so confusion..........................oh god !

i know if i want to get into something i have to express my feeelings.. but its so tough.. i dont think i'll ever be able to do it.... mercury atleast you guys talk frequently.. we donyt ... she hardly talks to me.......i mean not that she ignores me ... she talks so less...with everyone....... and its so hard to even imagine what her reaction might be...

In my view, you should express your feelings before it becomes too late.

tough chai na hune, khali guff matrai diyera chaldaina sathi. If you really desire to be with this girl for rest of your life then you gotta do what you gotta do. Goodluck from myside!!

thankx ppl...
la aba ma saachi tyestai garna paati lagna paryo....
have anyone of you had similar circumstances..i mean proposing to a girl who is much yonger and calls you "dai"...
it would be relly nice if you share it here............
dherai lai help huncha

Gather all your guts and hopes and make ya dream come true!! thats like a good warrior!!

Hey don't forget to come back and tell us what happened tho, that is if ya feel like it:)

good luck!!

mercury and maihoona, since the girls have been calling you dai and u have been harboring other feelings towards them, both of you should be ashamed of yourselves. And since you dont have the courage to express your sorry feelings - and need suggestion on the straight forward issue - you should be ashamed even more.

Now, both of you, head off towards some jungle and try to be a sanyasi. And dont forget to take things like lota and chata along with you. Good luck.

OMG!!

she calls u dai and u are in love with her OMG!
forget it !seriously bhaneko if she had any feelings
towards u thn she should/would not be calling u "DAI"
HELL oooooooo dai means brother!!! brotherrr!!!
jesus!

its not abt age difference! its abt ,way she calls u.

if u still can't help it thn go tell her! grrrr u are gonna get good scolding hehehe...if i was in her place i surely would have scolded u *sowwie* :D:D

well since u are serious thn let meh tell u something seriously tell her what u feel and say sorry.

good luck!

Amen...:)

In the villages the girls always call you dai first and then you start to develop the feelings so in my opinion you should test the waters to find out whether she feels the same about you. If so, nothings has to stop you. If she doesn't feel the same way then there's no point.

Definately ask her out bro. don't even think about age. aaya aap , gaya jhataro...
at least you don't have to live in doubt.. i know a couple guy 35- girl 19.. so you're in far better position...

ya, i understand in villages, but not anymore in the cities, forget about usa. So, i again give the same suggestion. Go to some jungle and try to be a sanyasi. Good luck. Oh and take a lota and chata.

damn
what else would she call me .. uncle?? daddy?? grandoa....instead of dai???.. she was introduced to be by her cousin whom she calls dai.. who is a very good friend of mine... ani dai nabhane k bhancha? she's like almost 8-9 years younger .. very well-behaved so obviously she wont call me by my name...right?
i dont know what to do/............................

syanyasi hune bela aayeko chiana............. bhontee... i'm not that pather\tic.. there are a lot of fishes in the sea...the point is i am only and only concerned with *this* particular one.....

You wont know unless you ask, so go and find out, stop thinking too much....good luck....

hey main she is calling u daiiiiii re omg plz be careful when u go to tell her. anyway good luck

In that case, my other suggestion would be tell her, in a tactful manner*, to call you as Mr. maihoona or maihoona jee for the time being. Definitely not dai. That could subtly give her the message. good luck

* timile dai bhanda ta man chasakka bijhcha; baru maihoona matra bhanana, choto ra mitho naam eheheh

damn..
woah 3 cheers to you bhonteee.
thats what i am goin to tell her... the next tijme i see her......its obviously going to be ....aafthiyaro because the only way we get to meet is during a get-together.. where her cousins and all are there who happen to be my friends and all of whom she calls dai........
but i will give it a try... joke gareko jastai garera...
damn bhonteee.. thankx gurl