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Posted on 02-16-12 1:15 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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 does anyone have?
 
Posted on 02-16-12 1:21 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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 What's up? Tell us your story friend. Maybe after that someone here can give you a different outlook on life. All I know is, suicide is not the solution. 



 
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 just frustrations u know! feeling like a looser all the time. things never got on ur way. 
 
Posted on 02-16-12 2:17 AM     [Snapshot: 81]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Please please don't even think abt it. Suicide is not a solution. Think abou your mom, your dad, family and all the good friends you have. Think about the accomplishments you have made so far.

Consult somebody, your close friend, or professional consultant, if you need one.

Share your problems and feelings to somebody that's close to you. I hope that helps.
 
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It's ok dawg. 

Happens to the best. Winning isn't important, participation is :)

So what's bothering you?

 
Posted on 02-16-12 3:04 AM     [Snapshot: 105]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Dude,
don't even think abt suicide. Your life is not the problem......your problem may seem larger than life to u and u may think there are no solutions. But trust me.....there are solutions to yr problem. May be yr dreams have fallen apart, may be failure in something has made u so hopeless but my friend, make new dreams for the older ones, life always doesnot move on as we expected, but we can adjust our goals and still be happier.

Personal note,older brother of One of my very best friend from school who happened to be my neighbor too,  hanged himself up. I have seeing  the horror and dysfunction in that family for years now. They were never the same people. Scars of such tragedy never heals and his death created more problems than he set out to solve under a tree of sundarijal forest.
Love yrself and love yr family and friends.
 
Posted on 02-16-12 3:33 AM     [Snapshot: 135]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 ita that im out of status and i m really worried and felt like the biggest looser. i never accomplished anything 
 
Posted on 02-16-12 7:01 AM     [Snapshot: 196]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Made in nepal,

My friend, brother first of all as everybody is saying, suicide is not a solution of any problem. We all have problems. I have problems, my roomate has problems, the apartment manager I had discussion with yesterday, has problems, the guy who tried to break into one of neighbor apartment has problems(btw they caught him and now his a**S is in jail) might had problems, indeed everybody in this world have problems. 

There is alwasy UPS and downs in our life which is the part of our life. There is always a solution, (it might take sometimes though) but there is always one. Don't do something stupid that will hunt your family for whole of their life. Friends are best remedies when we had difficulties in our life. Talk to them, talk to people, talk to your family and talk to us. You will be fine.

For now, if you are working take a break, may be a day or two or a week. And don't consume alcohol at any cost. Ciggrates and alchol will make it worse. Watch humor. (there is show by russel peter in youtube). Here are few sites you can visit for humor.

www.9gag.com
www.pointsincase.com
a blog
www.2leap.com

Trust me fren, you will be fine. 




 

 
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here is my few cent , one of the acquaintance  i know  had similar thought so i suggested him in this way
we human being also known as homo sephien sephien have one life so live happily due to lack of happiness lack of enjoyment lack of entertainment is the main causes of this type of thought 
there are many remedy of this type of thought or let's say there are others means to be happy such as
buy ps3 video games, if ur harrased in job then quit job or book off time to time , work to eat good quality of food  get married and produce lot of kids do whatever u have to be happy so i told my one of the acquaintance and he does the same thing like eating good quality of can foods , he brought like tons of ps3 games, he books time to time he eats good quality of foods buy android good computers do anything which makes u happy now he is happy then ever 
btw i got idea from this video and it works hope it works for u 


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 Don't panic, trust me on this!
I was in a similar situation, depression and everything. I also thought I will never get better, but I did. First list out your problems, I know there is one of them which is bigger than others. Tell it to someone you can really trust, who won't judge you, like your girlfriend or sister or brother, whoever. 
Then s/he will be involved, giving you solutions, they might be hard, but once you know that you are being watched over your shoulders, you will do something about it. Find and work on the solutions together.
Life is not that cheap bro, once you tackle the problem you have, you will be stronger, just don't let it kill you. Once you win over your problems your future will look clearer to you.

Best of luck brother.

 
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I can't tell you what to do to keep your mind off the suicidal thoughts, but it seems to me that this has to do a lot regarding your out-of-status. So, first and foremost, you could try to resolve that. Have you talked with your int'l adivsor yet? It is amazing what talking can do. I remember a incident in college where I couldn't pay off a 2K which was required for me to take an internship for the summer there was no condition attached to it. I went to the financial advisor, pleaded my case, asked me to give me options and sorted out in 20 minutes. The key is, you need to go talk. It is amazing what talking can achieve in this country. If you can't resolve this with your current institution, i am sure there are institutions that will take you in despite your failed status. I know a couple of friends who've done this in the past.

And I don't know going to an american counsellor can particularly be effective. We are all alone here yet our identity is very different in this rogue country. I would rather talk to family and friends. They might not help you, but they'll help you to make right decisions.

as somone already said, Suicide doesn't solve anything. it only makes it worse! and about achieving, it is all relative my friend.

 
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Suicide is a weapon used by people who live by other people's standards. It is not a tool you use to escape your life, but a tool to escape your inability to live by other people's expectation.

The meaning of failure is abstract. Someone might feel their inability to get to the moon as failure while a begger in the street might consider it failure to earn a single rupees in one day. Similarly the meaning of success varies too but most important, the meaning of success or failure is not determined by you but it's determined by the society, family you live in.

You have to learn to live for yourself and find out what is important for you. You need to have the ability to spring back from perceived failures and to learn to cope with your success in your own way. Life is the most valuable thing on earth. Your own life is more valuable than the entire bank account of Bill Gates. Look at Steve Jobs, he had status, he had money, he had everything but he didn't have what was necessary for life. He didn't have health. So your life is the most valuable thing on earth and you are even considering suicide that is just wrong! Life is a series of ups and down and therein lies the beauty of the experience. Even the thought of suicide may simply be an experience of thought. An idle mind is a devil's workshop so the mind may sometimes go into the dark alley, and without correct direction, it may take a man to his doom but you are not going to stay there for too long because in posting here you have already determined yourself that you will not take that path.

Status h1, everything is important but not the end of the world. As long as you have your health, you can always spring back. There are hundreds of thousands of illegal immigrants in the US, so what if you have to join them. Life is about survival of the fittest and you can try to survive any which way you have to. You don't have to own the trump tower to be happy. You chose to be happy at being able to have some food on the table and a ceiling above your head.

Think about other people who are worse off than you. There are people who don't have any hands and legs who are begging to keep themselves alive. There are people who cannot eat. Your problem is not even close to their problem. You are fine. You can enjoy this precious gift of life. Don't curse the people who gave you this gift by even thinking of ending it.

Live Love Life

 
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madeinnepal,
Suicide is the biggest mistake , so, don't even think about it.
Later on, there won't be second time to regret your mistake.

 
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Rethink posted a great words there for you friend. Life is precious and you can always bounce back. Don't give up!
 
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Madeinepal,
Thoughts come and go. Observe them and see how long they last. No matter how deep rooted thoughts are sooner or later they pass away. It's not unusual for such thoughts to crop up in our minds.. just observe them and don't identify yourself with it. Everything is impermanent. 
 
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Thank you all of you guys sorry couldnt thank personally but i m sure you guys are great human being. This is a good therapy . we nepalese proved again how helpful and friendly people we are which we are renowned in this world. Thank you brothers and sisters for taking time to write down for me. I feel proud that im  surrounded by our warmth heart of my own nepali people. 

The thought came to my mind not a long ago maybe a month or so. Heres my story. Been here for 6-7 years on F-1 visa. Couldnt graduate due to some negligence of mine. I dont have to blame anyone on this. Out of status for about 4-5 months now. I dont see a light at the end of the tunnel. Planning to file for asylum due to an advice from some of my friends. BUT my biggest fear is what if i get rejected and the immigration officer orders me to get deported. I cant even think about going back empty handed no education no money face full of shame! so going back is not even an option for me now. This thought is hovering around me that if i have to go back i wud rather ..............

 
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 If you have been out of status for less than 5 months, you can reinstate your status. That may solve your whole problem:

http://www.upenn.edu/oip/isss/f1/reinstatement



 
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 Thank you jhilke_bro. I have been out of staus since the end of september due to my international advisors refusal to transfer me to a local institute. I think its around 5 months now. IDK what to do i have been just stressed out 
 


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